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Mar 10, 2010 07:37PM
Amusing Musings: Heartfelt Declaration
with Kim Jackson
Heartfelt Declaration
?Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.?
So beautiful?don?t you agree? I absolutely love this part of this passage. Yes, (for my heathens out there) it?s part of a bible passage. Now, don?t get antsy?when or when you don?t go to church or temple; it?s strictly your business. But, I just wanted to share something with you.
Every time that I read this; it strikes me. It?s like the epitome of pure unconditional love written on paper. When we were young, we knew nothing of the power of unconditional love. Yet, we were easy to come by those words?I love you. We took puppy love for the real thing and I am not faulting anyone. At the time that it was said or said to us; we really believed that we meant it or felt that the other person was declaring truth. It wasn?t until we became older and experienced life that we realized that what was felt wasn?t exactly the ?real? thing. Sadly, some of us still make this declaration because of some intense attraction or lustful connection. But, this is not love?not true love. What happens if that connection is broken? What happens if that person gains or loses weight? Hey?it depends on what you?re attracted to?I?m only stating fact. That feeling that you declared will quickly diminish. And both of you will be wondering what the problem is. I can tell you what the problem is?you declared something that wasn?t true.
At the time that you declared?I love you; you may have thought it to be true. But, I have a little exercise for you. Think about the person that you love?right now, go. At this time; you?re probably sitting there with a little silly grin on your face. It?s okay?that?s natural. Now, think of this person with someone else. Happy, married, and in love. Did that smile go away? Did your eyebrows wrinkle with disdain? Did you get a bit of an attitude or get angry? Guess what? You may care deeply about that person?but love it is not. When you love someone and you do this exercise; it may hurt a little, until you imagine the look of love on their face and you smile again. You want that person to be happy?even if it?s not with you.
Now, before you go attaching comments?telling me that I can?t tell you if you love somebody or not. You?re right. I can not tell you what you feel, but I can tell you this. The next time you?re thinking about telling someone that you love them, try this exercise. You just might change your mind.
